Accusations

Situation:  You meet someone via the internet and almost instantly you are vibing with them.  You live a few hours away from this person and after several months of talking, texting and emailing you make plans to go and see them.  A week or so before your planned trip, you get an anonymous text from a Gmail email account.  The text says that the person you’ll be spending the weekend with is actually their real life boo and that you’d better stay away from them.  After a series of texts between you and Anonymous and a conversation with your internet boo, you get the feeling that it’s some B.S.  Anonymous won’t confirm that they are indeed talking about your internet boo.  Your internet boo assures you that they don’t have a significant other and they have no idea who Anonymous is.  You both come to the conclusion that maybe it’s one of the few people who know about the upcoming weekend trip and that they must be playing a practical joke.  Nothing more is thought of it.

You go on your trip and have a fantastic time.  Your internet boo is all you dreamed of and more.  You become even more smitten.

A couple nights later, you get an email from Anonymous.  They come with loads of info this time.  They know everything about you and your internet boo.  They even know exactly what hotel you stayed in while visiting.  They say that they have internet boo’s email password and that’s how they have all this intel.  They say they are willing to forward emails to prove they are telling the truth as well as give you their real email address and phone number.  They tell you that they also live a few hours away from internet boo and that they don’t see them often but they have been exclusive for almost a year.  They tell you that they wouldn’t confirm internet boo’s identity because they didn’t want them to change their email password and therefore cut off the source of their snoopage.

Distressed, you go to your internet boo with all this.  They are upset and feel as if they are being accused.  They tell you to get the email address and phone number of Anonymous and talk to them to get the “proof” you want.  They stick to their story that they do not have a significant other and do not know who Anonymous is.  At this point, your internet boo says that they still care and want to maintain a friendship but you can tell they are pissed and turned off by the situation.

You’re not sure if it’s because you are smitten or not but you believe your internet boo.  They have never given indications that they had a significant other and don’t seem like the type to lie about something like this.  They have been up front with you since day one about other people they were dating.  While you have a gut feeling that they are not lying, you also have a gut feeling that Anonymous IS someone who knows your internet boo and is possibly trying to throw shade. 

Your internet boo is pissed and they just continue to tell you to go and get the ”proof”.  You are upset because you don’t know what to believe.

So…what do you do?  Do you drop the whole situation and just move forward with internet boo?  Because of the distance between you two, you couldn’t really see a relationship happening but you are extremely smitten…OR do you contact Anonymous and try to get that “proof”?